Different Shades of Haters

When I say I’ve seen it all, believe me I have really seen it all, and I am going to be sharing with you simple ways to deal with chronic haters. Before I go further, I’d like to throw more light on the different kinds of haters and how to recognize them.

There are those that can’t seem to understand why good things happen to you, as far as they are concerned, you don’t deserve it. By their standards, they are more beautiful than you, more qualified and should have all the good things of life while you are simply given the leftovers. The disappointments however is that the Almighty God does not see things as we humans do (Isaiah 55:8-9).

There are also those who hate you just because you are alive, you are happy, you are smiling. For them your very existence causes them a lot of heartache, you didn’t do anything directly to hurt them but they just can’t stand the sight of you. They silently wait for the day they will hear you are gone and secretly rejoice at your misfortune and blame you for whatever ills that befalls you. They see it as the punishment from the universe. They forget that God makes the rain to fall on the good and the bad alike (Math 5:45). 

You also have the people you stepped on their toes, it may be consciously or mistake. These may be people you know closely, they trust you, and they just can’t understand why you betrayed their trust. They are not concerned with the motive for the betrayal. They secretly plot revenge, looking for every opportunity to bring you down. These ones are perfect examples of what the psalmist meant in Psalm 21:11 because the Lord makes their plan to fail.

Then you have the recruited haters. This group of haters may not know you or transacted with you on personal grounds, they can walk pass you without realizing or recognizing you, yet behind you they slander you as if they have had an encounter with you. They are simply recruited to join in the evil agenda to hate you. Their head is filled with whatever ill they’ve been fed/sold about you. They carry your matter dey waka for road like say na you be the next worse thing after Ebola. If they ever come in contact with you, they are spending a great deal of physical and metal energy to poke holes in your person just to justify their hatred for you.

I can’t understand why anyone will expense such a great deal of energy hating on someone that he/she does not even know, it baffles me beyond understanding that someone can just tell you negative things about someone that has never hurt you and they take it and run? Odikwa egwu really.

So, how do you recognize them?

They abound around you, in form of friends, acquaintances and colleagues and even strangers. You feel it in your guts that such people do not like you, you see it in the ways they try to frustrate your joy, you can also see it in the way they stop talking when you enter a room. There are so many ways to spot them but the most effective is the instinctive direction. Some people call it spiritual discernment, which is actually one of the nine gifts of the Holy Spirit (1^st Cor 12:4-10). Nature never goes wrong with these things. Once it begins to tell you to be mindful of someone, do yourself a favour and head it. You’d be glad you did.

How do I deal with them?

Simplest of the whole epistle is how to deal with them, for you to give them more reason to hate or more heartache and sleepless night, feign ignorance of their activities and continue to show them kindness. Kill them more with your kindness, buy them meals if you can. Follow what the book of Proverb says that you are not only doing a good deed by being kind, you are also heaping a coal of fire that will burn them out of the surface of the earth upon them. (Proverb 25:21-22)

Number two, ‘SUCCESS’ I can’t stress it enough that the best thing you can do for yourself and your haters is to succeed more than you ever imagined. Resolve within you not to ever fail, even if you fail, be sure to get up and dust yourself up and keep succeeding.  Success is the best treatment for a hater. Let’s go and achieve success together.

Chioma Azosiri

12:48. 15-07-2016